Seven Deadly Sins (Style Edition #1)

Happy Tuesday!

As promised, I am blogging each and every Tuesday (sometimes more but definitely on Tuesdays). I hope you are just as excited as I am when it comes to the blogging process, and I do appreciate that you’ve even taken the time to come to my page.

A topic I’d like to focus on are the Seven Deadly Sins, but more so in ways relating to style and fashion. I know that many of us can relate to the style and fashion industry, so that’s why I’m using that industry to paint a picture about topics ranging from lust, anger, envy, gluttony, sloth, greed, and wrath. I know it’s a bit of a heavy hand, but I will take each topic into delicious weekly bite-sized morsels masquerading into bitter truths that need to be taken in.

For today’s topic, I am going to focus on envy in the fashion industry and why envy will always be out of style. Not sometimes, not mostly, but in fact ALL of the time. Recently, Commes des Garçon pulled the ultimate fashion faux-pas with cultural appropriation on the runway. However, this is sadly not anything new, but hopefully these maîsons of avante-garde couture will continue to learn from their mistakes, like we all need to continually do.

Envy comes from a horrible place and can cause intense divide and bitterness.

It is okay to look at someone else and sincerely feel happy and proud of their accomplishments, but it is a whole other thing to look at someone’s accomplishments, milestones, or assets and wonder why you’re not them or feel depressed because you’re not “living your best life” which is honestly their life.

Envy can cause friendships to turn sour, relationships to sicken, intense anxiety and depression, and so much more. You could even begin to develop identity crises because you become too absorbed with what someone else is doing at all times.

The solution? Focus on yourself, focus on self-care, and understand that we are all on different paths and that is completely okay. You might not have an inkling of understanding as to what that person had to endure to get to where they are today. So, please be compassionate instead of critical, be warming instead of whining, and be euphoric instead of being envious.

You are also here, and you have ✨precious gifts✨ to share with the world 🌎.

So what are you waiting for? I want to see all of us succeed and thrive.

Much love,

Stella Leanne

P.S. See you next week, where we will discuss… lust!

3 Ways To Build Resilience Now

What is one of the best tools to have in your soft skill arsenal that will catapult you into your even better self and get you to the next phase of your life that you’ve been dreaming of for a long time? Resilience, of course! Resilience is the ability to take a failure and learn from it, and become better, rather than wallow endlessly and pity oneself. Resilience is key if you need to achieve the seemingly impossible, because resilience is that ability to keep going, despite the crazy things that can throw us for a spin, either internally or externally. Resilience is the ability to keep going, and to turn obstacles into growth opportunities. Resilience is a muscle, and it can definitely be honed, and I’ll even give you a few tips that can help you improve your resilience today.

  1. Stop giving into your fears, but keep listening to your gut. Your gut will be the one that can either save or kick your butt, however, your fears only want your butt to stay stagnant and in your “comfort zone.” Deep growth lies outside your comfort zone, beyond what you are used to and familiar with, but is nothing to be afraid of.
  2. After you’ve had a moment to reflect, get back out there. Don’t think about the past too much and get so wrapped up in it that you forget that you’re in the present and can make changes right now that can help you out in the long run. Just get out and keep going.
  3. Remember the bigger picture. What initially got you into this idea, notion, project, activity, etc.? Was it so that you could be recognized in that field? Was it so that you could support yourself while also doing something you enjoyed? Please remember that not every moment will be one that is glamorous or lovely, but every bit of effort you put into overcoming obstacles will manifest itself into awesome experiences and your realities will soon become better than your wildest dreams.